Hospice nurse Karen came today. She described Ed as being in a coma now. His blood pressure is way down, and she felt that the highly-concentrated oxygen he had at his nose is no longer necessary. He has been breathing regular room air since about 3:30 today. Karen turned off the oxygen concentrator machine, and we all were immediately struck by the quietness in the house without its noise that we had so gotten used to 24 hours a day. Within about a half-hour, his breathing became shallow again; however, this evening he is back to deeper breaths. In fact, I described it as him snoring as he always has except without the grating noise. Karen says he must still have some unfinished business inside of himself that he is still working through, and so he is still hanging on. Yet once again she told me to wait until tomorrow to refill his bedtime pill prescription even though as of right now there is only one pill left, that being for tomorrow night. I had to pause when Karen looked for my agreement with removing the oxygen, but I thought about what his living will and his health care power of attorney say, as well as our conversations, and I gave my consent.
Judi was in and out today. Caregiver Nicole came early, but Karen had said we should just leave Ed be and not bathe him today. Still, I think Nicole has become attached to Ed and us; she stayed for two hours anyway. Becky, Debbie, Melissa and I had supper together, and for a change they let me cook--didn't do much, just a quick use of the grill. Debbie's husband Tom was here briefly, too. Becky will shortly be heading home to her own family for the night, and Sherry is lodging at the Drury Hotel tonight (she works for Drury) where son Jeremy, in from St. Louis, is also staying. So tonight with me are Melissa and Debbie. I am continuing to give Ed his pain medication as a safeguard in case he can still feel pain, though Karen thinks that unlikely.
